I C U Dating Online

Find The Man Of Your Dreams

Most women dream of the day they will attract the man of their dreams. Many describe a man who is “tall, dark, handsome, (preferably) rich, sensitive, loves kids, has an advanced degree and loves his mom.” I’ve described this same man, listened to my friends describe men of similar qualities and pondered, plotted and schemed about how to meet this mystery man. Here, after watching (and experiencing) numerous disappointments on the dating scene, are my five top tips find the man of your dreams.  Continue reading Find The Man Of Your Dreams…

Marriage And Long-Term Relationships

Remaining seductive—flirting, dressing up, nibbling his neck, leaving her notes, meet at your favorite spots—is a part of a successful long-term relationship.

Marriage and Long-Term Relationships

• A lifelong partner usually does not have all the characteristics of your idealized fantasy lover.
• The biggest enemy of sex in long-term relationships is anger.
• The partner with lower desire always controls the sexual relationship.
• Less than a third of married couples say they have taken a shower together.
• A good long-term relationship includes trust: continuing jealousy means something is wrong.
• You can have fulfilling sexual experiences at 90, if you’re healthy and sexually involved at 60, 70 & 80.
• People who didn’t like sex much when they were younger tend to give it up after 50.
• People can have fulfilling, active sex lives after they’ve had a heart attack without risking their health. It’s not more dangerous than climbing a flight of stairs—and a lot more fun.

Stop Sippin’ On The Hater-Rade

Are your friends hating on your new love? If your friends aren’t thrilled about your new boyfriend, take these steps to minimize the damage and save your friendships.

1. Stay in touch. New relationships are exciting, and it’s easy to get swept away. If you’ve been a little too wrapped up in your new romance, the three-month mark is the time to start balancing your love life with the rest of your life. Your friends will want to see the happy, smitten you now rather than waiting for the bummed, post-break up you later.

2. Stick to your plans. You know you shouldn’t flake on your friend, but if you flake on your friend to be with your guy, it isn’t going to score either of you any points in her book.

3. Quit complaining. Sometimes you need a friend’s perspective to help you work out a relationship problem, but if you constantly complain about what your guy does wrong, your friend isn’t going to think he’s all that special. Think twice before you harp on the little things and share too much.

4. Talk it out. Don’t be afraid to ask your friend why she doesn’t like your guy. It might be a personality clash, or maybe your new-love PDA makes her uncomfortable.

Remember: your boyfriend doesn’t have to be BFF with your friends, but it is important that you make an effort for everyone to get along!

Heal A Broken Heart

We know, we know….you thought you loved him and that he was the ONLY one for you. You think there’s never going to be another guy that can fill the hole in your heart and no matter how hard you try, you don’t think you can ever love again (sounds like one of those old, sappy love songs your parents listened to in the 70s, right?) Well, finish the box of Kleenex, pick up the shattered pieces, and move on. Many teens suffer from heartbreak, but there are things you can do to lift your spirits.

1. Talk it out. Call your friends and have a girl’s night/cry-fest. Your friends know what you’re going through and will be a there to lend a shoulder to cry on.
2. Feeling a little vengeful? Get rid of the things that remind you of him. Put his picture on a dartboard for target practice. Rip up the “cutesy” couple’s pictures you took. *Note: this is only acceptable and fun to do one time!
3. Don’t compare your new guy to your ex! It’s natural to be attracted to a certain “type” of guy, but just because you’re new man is similar to your ex, it doesn’t mean he shares the same “bad” habits.
4. The best thing to do? Let time heal your broken heart. Sometimes all you can do is reflect on what went wrong and learn from it. Don’t build a wall around your heart– you might miss out on a new love!

Cheap For Me, Fun For Us

No one needs to “break the bank” to make a night special and romantic. With some inexpensive date ideas, you can focus on each other instead of the lack of cash in your pockets.

• Not all of us are musically inclined and can write a song to serenade our love. Instead, download a mix of tunes that represents the relationship. Drive to a secluded place, play the CD in your car with the windows rolled down and spend the night dancing under the stars.

• Switch up dinner and a movie (the typical date) and go for lunch instead! Grab a slice of pizza from your favorite place and attend the matinee showing to save some cash. Continue reading Cheap For Me, Fun For Us…

Cyber Love

We are living in a digital world and when it comes to romance you have to log online to fall in love. With so many different ways to hook up digitally-video chat, Facebook, Twitter, email, instant messaging and texting- figuring out what to type can be exhausting! Chat your way into his heart with these tech tips!

-Follow the 50/50 rule. Contact him just as often as he contacts you. Don’t overload his inbox or only talk when he texts you.

-Don’t type too much or too little. Mimic the way you would naturally chat with your girlfriends. Just be sure to remember the 5 words you should never text!

-Get personal. While you don’t want to share intimate details about yourself on his Facebook wall, you shouldn’t hold back when chatting one-on-one. Sharing personal stories can be easier with the buffer of technology and he might be more likely to open up.

-Don’t be afraid to dial! Typing your way through a conversation is easy. You have to be able talk to him on the phone (and in person) too! Try video chatting with him to warm up for the real thing.

Singled Out?

All of your friends are coupled up, but being the last single standing doesn’t mean it’s the end of your social life (or your friendships!). Here are some tips on how to enjoy the single life:

Pamper yourself:
Treat yourself to a mani-pedi, or go all out and get massage or facial.

Take yourself out:
Nothing says you have to stay home on the weekend with takeout. Grab a book or a magazine and head to your fave restaurant. Dining alone will make you look confident, which is always sexy.

Take a class:
Now’s the time to expand your horizons! Check your local colleges and community centers for classes. BONUS- it’s a great way to meet new people!

Buddy up with their beaus:
It’s okay to be friends with whoever your friends are dating. Have all of the couples in your life over for dinner and get to know your pals’ special someone. Tell them to bring their single friends!